The issue for me would be that there is a "personal" budget and a "public" budget ... it would be nice of the Obama's to offer their home to a friend for a wedding as long it comes from their personal funds. To set a precedent of using public funds would not be a good thing.
I would say that even a small crowd of 35 would require additional staffing that would not be there if nothing were happening that day.
I don't personally know anyone who admits voting for him!
"We" is a tricky word. I'll leave it to those interested to explore it. Google or other searches will define it differently....JD
If you live in this country and believe in free elections and are willing to abide by them, then it is "we" no matter how you voted.