This thread was started by one of the nicest ladies on this forum--sadly she isn't posting much anymore. Anyway--I think in light of the "Big Flush" and the issue of "oldsters" being pooped on by newbies-its perhaps a good idea to discuss the concept of elusive and sometime painful "
apology".
I am an expert in apologizing, it comes from years of practice......the result of being rather -amen- excitable.
DON'T SAY ANYTHING /PAUL.
What does the apology accomplish? It shows that you have ------>
RESPECT<--------- for the other persons feelings.
EVEN if you do not agree with them. This has nothing to do with peanuts either.
***side note--demanding someone apologize is a really stupid thing to do and should NEVER happen, this causes a deep seated primal response called "Up yours you sanctimonious jackass". This is
BAD!***
Now I would like to give a demonstration: "I'm sorry you feel I am rude."
NO NO NO NO!!!! That takes responsiblity off of your shoulders. Basically you are saying that the other person is a wrong for feeling that you are rude. This is a
sneaky fake apology. I know-- I do this to my husband all the time. (Poor Bart)
The proper apology: "I'm sorry I was rude to you." PHEW---do you all have any idea how much I paid to learn how to properly apologize??? I put my therapists kid through college.
There is nothing wrong with an RTF smackdown, its a right of passage and honestly sometime we need a V-8 smack in the head. Its also a good idea to not assume familiarity until you have earned it on this here forum.
Lastly: to Mr. Fallon--I am sorry I once told you that I hoped you fell in a pile of dog poo and had a 400 mile drive home in a heat wave in a broken down car with no ventilation and windows stuck in the up position.
Helpy Help Person regards,