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Thread: Why don't people listen?????

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    Default Why don't people listen?????

    At work and in the community, I am the go-to 'dog lady' who answers any and all questions canine. People will ask for litter suggestions, vet recommendations, etc. While I have no problem helping and pointing them in the right direction, I get very irritated when they don't listen and wind up with a dysplastic puppy or some other god-awful problem. I know I am not alone in this - thanks for letting me rant!!!!

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    It's called validation Sondra and yes it can be very frustrating.
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    I thought you were talking about people on the RTF not listening to advice
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    "Still a man hears what he wants to hear, and disregards the rest." ~ Simon & Garfunkel ("The Boxer")

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    I honestly think part of it is the "free" aspect of the advice.

    I think many times folks take it a bit more seriously if they have some "skin in the game".

    When it's "free", they don't put much value on it.

    Sondra, I'm not suggesting you start charging for the advice. I'm just of the opinion (because the same stuff has happened to me for years) that when giving free dog advice, it generally goes slightly to totally ignored.

    It's frustrating...and it can make you a bit cold on wanting to put much effort into the next one.


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    If you don't charge a fee?...It can often be seen as 'Valueless'?
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    Along the same lines of Chris and Polmaise....

    I've found that people seeking advice generally aren't that knowledgeable about dogs.....

    Then when you give them solid advice,,,,,,,,,,,,They find out that what you recommend is not inexpensive.

    People can be cheep...

    Most don't understand the purchase price is the least of the costs associated with dog ownership,,,,,,,,,,Until it's too late.
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    I know the frustration........

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    The only thing worse is when someone asks your opinion, then wants to argue with you and tell you you're wrong.

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