I think I will take Jeff foxworthy's approach for this issue. Feel free to add more and ask questions. Neocon can be used derogatively or as a description to differentiate between the paleo cons
You might be a neocon if...
You think we can solve the Middle East issues with our military
You say you want smaller government as long as there is no cut in military spending
You claim to want less intrusive govt but support the patriot act
You say you are pro life, yet support the killing of civilians overseas and comfort yourself by saying its collateral damage
You don't care that citizens of the US can legally be killed by drones.
Those are what I can think of now, as a former neocon myself, I finally changed when I would hear stories of Palestinian, Iraqi, afghan, and Syrian Christians who had family members blown up for no reason other than they were living in a Muslim area. This shook me to my core and has led me to pursue non intervention candidates.